Updated: Aug 30
Keep reading if anxiety is an everyday struggle for you and hinders your personal growth every so often.
There's a reason I didn't title this post "how to overcome anxiety as a young adult," instead. One, I'm not qualified enough or fully aware of how one can do so, moreover, I think fighting the face of an issue is the first stage in the process of overcoming it.
You do not need to have an anxiety disorder for your anxiety to be considered valid and serious. We're all just a bunch of confused kids trying to work through the world. Anxiety is only a fraction of things that has to come.
I changed schools at the age of 16 and it's been a week since it. Perturbation and apprehension took over like never before. Here are some things that worked for me:
#1 - Fake it till you make it
I know the whole deal about authenticity and self-confidence but in practicality you've got to play it smarter than that. Nobody's going to know you're nervous unless you give them reason to believe you are. If you walk through a crowd of new faces and put your best front forward- you've won half the battle. First impressions are vital and you've already aced that. Essentially, what I mean is that you don't need to be confident to show that you're confident. From my instances of experience, people only know what you let them know. They only have the power to mock you if they gaze that you're nervous about being mocked at.
#2 - Nobody really cares
Narcissists- that might have hit a nerve. Empaths- or really anyone who's not a narcissist, for you that may have come off as a wave of relief. But in all seriousness, what I mean is that in the moments you're worried about fixing your hair, and stuttering the slightest bit, or walking down the hallway in a certain odd way- remember that nobody really cares. Casualties like such happen all the time and are overlooked almost always. If you're worried about a random dude judging you, chances are, they're busy judging themselves already.
"Make sure your worst enemy is not living between your ears." — Laird Hamilton
#3 - Weigh the probability of your fears coming true
Our creative minds are always cooking something. Often impulsive thoughts lead us into assuming consequences that have almost no possibility of coming true. When you're dealing with intense restlessness about an upcoming result, interaction, etc. trace backwards and analyse how rationale it is for you to be dreading what you're dreading. Turns out, when you force yourself to connect logic to anxiety- you end up realising exactly how much of it your brain was exaggerating.
#4 - Do the basics
I was hoping I could avoid the whole 'take deep breaths,' 'journal,' and 'meditate' aspects but I'd be lying if I claimed they never worked for me. They did. And in fact, more times than I'd anticipated for them to. If, for example, you ever happen to feel your heart rate rapidly increasing, find a mirror, or a quiet corner and concentrate all of your focus on controlling your breathing. Stare at yourself (in a mirror). Do nothing. Let the moment pass through you. Sit or kneel down if it gets super overwhelming. Finally, when you have the time- write about your experience. Nobody has to know about or read it. It's for you to track your activities and analyse them.
#5 - Seek help from a professional
I'd say talk to a friend, and I'm sure a lot of you already do, or your parents, but if you have reason to believe that it's getting out of control, you have to reach out for help. Honestly, it could be for no other intention except respecting the fact that you owe that much to your body and soul. We're humans, and each one unique to the other- hence someone qualified may be able to study your worries and provide with guidance.
Anxiety can really get to you some days. It has to me. And often it's for the tiniest things like ordering food at a hotel desk. Something that I constantly keep telling myself is that I'm a human being and not a human doing. You have to take things one at a time.
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